Don't miss the present, it might have once been a dream.

Do you ever have those days or maybe months where you just feel like nothing is going the way you want it to?  Funny how we think our plan is the right way :)  Well the past week was one of those times.  Plain and simple, I have been unhappy that I am not dating anyone or married. It all started when I received an wedding invitation this week. It was addressed to Miss Single and guest.  I really want to take a date to this wedding in particular.  There will be lots of dancing and I love to dance!  I began to cry as I thought about who I could ask (I receive lots of wedding invitations and this is the first one that made me cry).  There was no one.  The feeling of loneliness quickly took over.  Frustrated with myself, I finally took my thoughts to my journal this morning.   I sat outside on my cozy porch sipping hot tea while soaking in the crisp fall morning.  I started to write down all of the dreams that had come true in my life.  I was amazed to see how many dreams had actually come true.  Then it hit me that I was living out one of my dreams.  Since I was a little girl I had dreamed of living in this one particular neighborhood in my city.  The houses are old and full of character.  The streets are lined with old trees and wide sidewalks. Guess what? I now live in that neighborhood. How many times in our life do we miss our dreams coming true because we are waiting for the next best thing?  Do we miss out on living because we are always focused on the waiting?  I don't know what will happen in my life, but I have a peace that I know someone has created me to hope and dream and that my life is in His hands :)

Signing Off,
Still single but content 

The dreaded phrase " I'm just not that into you"

No matter if it's been one date, three months, or one year breaking things off with someone is never easy.   I feel like I do a miserable job of telling someone I am not interested.  I'm either way too blunt or drag it on by keeping saying no to dates and just not tell them how I really feel.  Part of it could be that I am "feeler" and overly care how the poor guy is going to feel. No matter what he is going to feel disappointment.  There is just no easy way.  I guess that is just part of the risk of dating. This whole arranged marriage concept is starting to sound better each day.

Yours Truly,
Still Simply Single

An Arranged Marriage

Would you ever agree to an arranged marriage? I'm not going to lie, I have definitely thought about it. This thought usually occurs when I am frustrated with my current dating life :)  Last night I had four of my favorite single gals over to watch the movie Arranged . This is an absolutely delightful movie! The movie follows the lives of two 20 something women in New York City.  Your probably thinking, "Hmmm this sounds a lot like Sex and the City."  Here is the hitch, one woman is an Orthodox Jew and the other woman is a Muslim. In both religions it is the custom for marriages to be arranged. Now the fun part is that these women, like many of us, don't meet prince charming right at first.  It was so refreshing to see a love story develop that was clean and innocent.  But friends, I ask my question again - Would you ever agree to an arranged marriage?  What if you had people who knew and loved you the best pick out your future spouse? Something to ponder :)

Something new to listen to at the gym

I have had a gym membership for the past 3 years and am a horrible member.  Well since I climbed my first 14ner I now love going to the gym.  My roommate recommend that I bring my ipod to help me stay focused. WOW - does it ever help! I have been listening to sermons lately and stumbled across this series by Mark Driscoll. I keep finding myself laughing out loud at the gym.  This is a great series on dating. Check it out and let me know your thoughts. Redeeming Ruth

Three times a bridesmaid - never a bride

This coming Saturday will be my 8th time as a bridesmaid.  I know there are a ton more people who can beat my measly 8 times! I remember watching Anne of Green Gables as a young girl and Josie Pye telling Anne "Two times a bridesmaid never a bride."  Of course Anne corrects Josie as the saying goes "Three times a bridesmaid never a bride." I remember thinking that if I wanted to get married to a man like Gilbert Blythe I better not be a bridesmaid too many times. Well, twenty years later and I am on my eighth bridesmaid dress and will have my ninth dress by November. Thankfully I don't believe in silly old wives tales and am still a hopeful romantic. So let's just change the saying to twelve times a bridesmaid - never a bride ;)

Seven Single Ladies at a Baseball Game

"Seven single ladies at a baseball game..." sounds like it is the start to a rhyme or a joke. But it is no joke or rhyme as of yet.   Saturday night I attended a baseball game with a few of my girlfriends.  The ages ranged from 24 to 30.  Each of these ladies were fashionably dressed, fit, college educated, employed, responsible, sociable, beautiful, but all very single.  Any guy would be lucky to be dating one of these women.  So why are these ladies not married?  Could it be that the guys that are doing the asking are not made of quality material?  They just haven't found the right one?  They have too high of standards? Why are these women not being asked out left and right? I would greatly appreciate your thoughts.